Coaching is always led by goals. The role of the coach is to help the client to articulate what they need or want clearly and then work towards achieving that. Which is fine if the client knows what they want. But when you are unhappy, it is often hard to figure out what would make you happy. Our brains tend to repeat patterns. So, if you are feeling a bit negative, you tend to see the negative in everything. Which, in turn, makes it hard to figure out what you really need to do to make...
3 days ago • 1 min read
Don't get worried. Not that kind of addict. I am completely and totally addicted to self-improvement podcasts (and books). If I'm honest I've been like that most of my life. Back in my twenties I remember consuming The Road Less Travelled and Zen And The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance in a particularly deep week. BTW I still read Zen ... every couple of years. Would recommend. These days every drive I take is to the sound of Alex Hormozi or Steven Bartlett or my current personal favourite...
5 days ago • 1 min read
Do you understand what drives you emotionally? I mean the life-long coding that creates the way you to respond to things. Most of us don't. We behave in way we've always behaved and we don't question it. There is a theory that we develop these patterns in childhood as we learn to adapt to our environment. And then we keep going. This adaptation is really powerful. It gives us many of the skills that help us to navigate life. But they also have a shadow side. In our blind spot our adaptations...
6 days ago • 2 min read
There's a lot going on in the world isn't there? And it seems to move our attention so fast, from here to there, to this country and then that person and back again. So much to care about. To have an opinion about. To choose sides about. And that's before you add in relationships, kids, emails and those last minute demands on your work. Today in my HeRO Hour that's what I'm going to be talking to my clients about. How to protect yourself in the right way so you know what you think, need, want...
10 days ago • 1 min read
I'm not a coach. I spend about 20 hours a week coaching. But I'm not a coach. I have to remind myself of that regularly, which takes me a moment or two but it's important. If we over identify with the labels we give ourselves, we limit our true understanding of self. Which also limits our sense of potential. I'm not a coach. But often I coach. I'm not a coach. I'm coaching. I'm not a coach. Because if I was, I couldn't be anything else. Understanding the true nature of self is a crucial part...
12 days ago • 1 min read
One day this will all end and all of the things to be done will be done by someone else. But not today! So why don't we enjoy it for its fleeting beauty? I will if you will. Have a beautiful day, Stephen PS this post is completely inspired by the wonderful and surreal and wise song 100% Endurance by Yard Act. Hope it makes you smile. Let me know. -- Join the HeRO Program to transform your life in 90 days. Find out more about Stephen Lock Coaching. Includes details of my corporate offers and...
13 days ago • 1 min read
Helping people to overcome imposter syndrome is a regular part of coaching. You might be surprised that lots of very successful people admit to their coach that they feel they will be found out. In most cases this isn't rational, it is just the consequence of trying to work on things that are hard and complex a lot of the time. Sometimes I help people in a radical way when it comes to this. I ask them to consider that they really are an imposter. I ask them to think about all the reasons why...
14 days ago • 1 min read
Funny to think about isn't it. Whatever the future holds, these will be your good old days. There will be a time when you would trade just about anything to have the health you have now. There will be a time when you wish you had the opportunities in front of you that you have now. There will be a time when you wonder why you didn't act on the things you wanted to do now. And from that perspective, the little doubts, the big doubts, and the procrastination might fill you with regret. You...
17 days ago • 1 min read
There’s freedom in knowing the difference. Energy goes where attention goes. Don’t waste your willpower on the weather. Stephen Find out more about Stephen Lock Coaching. Includes details of my corporate offers and services. Take my Path to Fulfilment audit (new for 2025) to understand what might be missing in your life. Try the Stagnation Breaker, to think about how to shift when you are stuck. Subscribe to "Ask Better. Lead Better." to learn better leadership techniques from a coach....
18 days ago • 1 min read