Consistency compounds is a very well worn phrase in personal-development-land. And there's good reason for it. If you want results at anything over time, don't rely on motivation. Nobody is motivated on a cold February morning. But people who commit to consistency will get up, whatever their mood or weather, and do whatever it is that they need to do. And, as a result, eventually their efforts will compound. And so, this is one of the "rules" I run my business by. It isn't reasonable to...
4 days ago • 2 min read
I was talking to a client yesterday. They are putting on an event for the first time. And a bit nervous about it. In the course of the conversation I mentioned I was "going live on LinkedIn" later in the day. You can see the 15-minute recording if you are interested: Gen X Leaders: Why it is so Hard Right Now. My client asked if I was nervous like her. And I realised that, not only was I not nervous, I was barely thinking about it. Despite the possibility that hundreds of people might see me...
5 days ago • 1 min read
I got a wonderful message from my client Chris yesterday: Chris became a client of mine almost a year ago, but we really started to work together properly in February. He's already a brilliant entrepreneur who had built a successful business. And he knows how to make money out of it. But, that comes with lots of challenges. How to manage a team. How to keep yourself motivated. How to keep reinventing yourself. How to keep improving. How to juggle everything. How to deal with stress. I could...
6 days ago • 1 min read
I'm excited because it is exactly one week until my big online event. I hope you can come. But as I prepare for that, I thought it might help to share a technique I use for working on projects like this. I call it backwards planning. And it is one of the many things I teach in my HeRO Program. So, let's set the scene first. I have a wide range of different things to do in the next week. I have my normal job, with clients, finances, admin, sales calls and so on. I also have a busy family life....
7 days ago • 1 min read
In the 1980s I worked as a milkman in Bedale, North Yorkshire. I absolutely loved doing that. Up early, getting some exercise, earning some money and then ... going to school! That's right, I worked 5-6 days a week from 5am in my school uniform before getting dropped off at the school gates in time for class. Can't imagine my kids doing that. Would it even be legal? Anyway, I was telling my daughter (she's 16) about this yesterday and I also told her how birds used to steal the cream off the...
10 days ago • 1 min read
Less of the eye rolling thank you! In yesterday's post I mentioned menopause. I did this without realising I'd scheduled it for International Men's Day 🤦🏻♂️ Which might mean that I am guilty of being the Internet's current favourite meme target: the performative male. Or, it might signal that I/we don't take men's issues quite as seriously as we should. So, while I grab a matcha, clutch my labubu and copy of The Second Sex, I turn my attention to whether there is, or isn't such a thing as the...
11 days ago • 2 min read
Of course I'm not going to do that. Catchy hook though, right? 😉 However, if I am going to give a talk (which I am) for people in the middle part of life (which they are) and I don't mention menopause (which I will) I'd be avoiding something hugely significant. It's also an elephant in the room of many of the personal coaching conversations I have with people. Women experiencing it first hand. Men experiencing it second hand. And so, I have sought to educate myself on the topic. Last year I...
12 days ago • 1 min read
There's something special for you in today's email 👇🏻 but first... Sometimes I look at people my age and I see something in the way they carry themselves that I recognise. There's an almost invisible heaviness. Most of us have followed the rules, built a career, supported a family and kept showing up. Kept saying, "I'm fine". We grew up in a different time. Thrown out of the house for hours on end so we were not under mum's feet. Nobody knew where we were did they? Which made us resilient,...
13 days ago • 1 min read
I had a moment of clarity recently. Something that made me see something hiding in plain sight. You see, for the last couple of years, in my personal development coaching, I have been helping people in "the middle part of life". That's the best phrase I have managed to come up with to describe the kinds of people I help. But it is a bit of a nothing phrase isn't it? What does it actually mean? But then I spotted something about the majority of my clients. They are almost all Gen Xers. Which...
13 days ago • 1 min read
