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My Best Hack For Fear of Failure 🏆

Published 7 days ago • 1 min read

I'm working on a lot of new projects at the moment. All at the same time. All with a potential for big success.

But that can be overwhelming can't it? When you have lots of plates spinning, the fear is that you drop them all.

So, here is how I handle that.

I imagine every single way that things could go wrong. Every failure I could make. Every mistake. Every single way I could embarrass myself and ruin everything.

And I write a list. I write them all down and look at them. I face my fears.

Then I say to myself, "Even if every single one of these happens, I'll be okay." Because lots of bad things have happened in the past, right? But I am okay now. I am always okay.

Then I make notes next to every error and I ask myself, "If that happened, what would I do next?"

This way, I've done three helpful things:

  1. I have stopped myself ruminating by getting the thoughts down on paper.
  2. I have given myself real things to focus my attention on, instead of having spinning, catastrophic thoughts.
  3. I have pre-primed myself to react to every possible scenario.

Which means, I am ready for everything.

Have a great week, Stephen

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