How to Stay Whole When Chasing Big Goals


I can't think of a single time when one of my clients has had a problem with ambition.

At least, not a problem caused by being ambitious. Sometimes coaching helps people to realise they have set the wrong ambition. More often, people don't have enough ambition.

But ambition itself is never the problem.

However, forgetting who you are in pursuit of your ambition sometimes is.

I see this in people who have successful careers, but their relationships are a mess. Or people who dedicate themselves to their families and lose their identity along the way.

The solution is to have a genuine sense of balance in all areas of your life. In the needs of your self, family, community, work and daily practice. That's why I have this tool to help people think about it.

Once you can see more clearly where you are not giving appropriate attention, you can better put things in place to keep yourself feeling whole.

For example, I think of S who I worked with recently. He realised that he was neglecting his personal health too much and returned to a fitness regime. And then there's A who wasn't carving out time (focussed time) for her work. So she put boundaries in place with her husband to allow her to thrive.

This is just one small part of the work people do on my HeRO Program (new information). But it is foundational.

First people figure out what they need to do to stay well (in every sense). Then they make small changes. Which become new habits. And before you know it they are ready to thrive.

If you think you need some support with your ambition in any way, why not take one minute to read this. If it looks like it would help, book a call.

Have a great week, Stephen

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