Some things have happened that I wish hadn't happened.

My circumstances are not how I want them to be.

My luck has been out recently.

I've been thinking I was turning a corner for a while but it hasn't happened.

I laughed ironically at something last week and thought, surely nothing else can go wrong ... then it did.

And at the same time there's a voice in my head going, "you're a professional personal improvement-y person, so why can't you sort this out?" Which frankly isn't helpful. Thanks head voice 😏

The truth is, I have sorted out a lot of things out in a lot of ways over a lot of months in lots of different areas of my life and work. And I have helped lots of other people out too. My resilience isn't in question. My skills are getting tested but improving. My work is still good. Feedback is great.

And yet, I am sad today. So this is what I am doing about it.

Basically, I am letting myself feel it. It's not nice. Nobody wants to feel sad. But I am sad. So I should feel sad. I shouldn't pretend I am not sad.

I saw someone in the gym yesterday. He asked how I was. I almost said, "I'm fine, you?" But I didn't. I said I wasn't great.

You know what he did, twice? He said, I am here if you need to talk. Thanks Tom. That meant a lot 🤜🏻🤛🏻.

But, I won't make that call. I don't need to. I just need to feel sad for a bit. I've got things to be sad about.

And when I have felt all the sad feelings -- maybe for a few hours, or a couple of days -- I'll feel not sad. And then, I'll let myself feel whatever comes next.

I am sharing this in the hope it helps someone else. I've practiced feeling my feelings. Even the ones I don't like. This will pass. If ever I was in crisis, I'd talk to Tom or someone else. So, please don't be concerned 😘

Feel your feels people, Stephen

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