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Keep Your Big Goals Secret - Here's Why 🤫
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We had an interesting discussion in one of my group sessions yesterday. The peerless Katie, who is no stranger to smashing big goals (or wearing fancy dress), chose not to share her annual goals with the group. Manuel, who is one of Europe's up-and-coming uber entrepreneurs was happy to share his. And they are both right. You see, some of us thrive on external motivational cues. If other people are watching us work towards a goal, we find extra effort to prove ourselves to them. Others, like Katie (and me), find that counter-productive. Because we thrive more on holding ourselves to account, and external pressure is just pressure with no benefit. Context often matters also. You see, Katie and I work (mostly) alone. And so, our business goals are, to a large extent, also personal goals. They are an outward signal of challenges overcome by us and only us. Whereas Manuel has a team working with him. In his case it is actually crucial that everyone understands and is working towards the same business goals. Otherwise he risks people pulling in different directions. Regardless of your personal preference and circumstances, I do think it is wise not to tell people your big goals too soon. That's because on some level you will have to explain yourself and deal with questions. Which you might not be able to answer, yet. If this leads to self-doubt, or premature validation, you could take the energy out of your mission before you have even started. Hope you found this useful. And if you'd like personal help from me in 2026... I have capacity for two more clients in my HeRO Program staring in January. If that's something you are considering, check out the information here, then book a clarity call. You can also book a call to discuss team coaching, keynote speaking or anything else you need help with. See you tomorrow, Stephen -- If you’re curious whether coaching could help you find more clarity or direction, book a free 15-minute Clarity Call and we’ll explore it together. For anything else, hit reply. I answer every email personally. |
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